No, no, I'm not referring to me! I'm referring to others on both this website and the other dating site I hang out on. As I mentioned in my last post, this 22-year-old guy wrote a blog post Tuesday evening on the other dating site about what polyamory means to him and his wife. By this morning, the comment count was up to 190 comments. Granted, it seemed as most of these people were talking amongst themselves rather than to the blogger, but nonetheless, this fairly simple blog generated a g
more...No, no, I'm not referring to me! I'm referring to others on both this website and the other dating site I hang out on. As I mentioned in my last post, this 22-year-old guy wrote a blog post Tuesday evening on the other dating site about what polyamory means to him and his wife. By this morning, the comment count was up to 190 comments. Granted, it seemed as most of these people were talking amongst themselves rather than to the blogger, but nonetheless, this fairly simple blog generated a great deal of activity. It probably took the blogger all of 15 minutes to write.
I decided to sit down last night and write my own post about what polyamory personally means to me and my husband. I've posted it here and on that other dating site. You know what? I got zero comments. Not one. As far as I know, it was completely ignored or never seen.
Why is that?
Yeah, I know. I'm 52-years-old and certainly not in the prime demographics for dating sites. Who wants to even look at the profile of a 52-year-old woman? Who cares what she has to say? She's old!
Then again, maybe I truly do leave people speechless. I'm sharing my experiences rather than asking for their opinions and advice. Their opinions aren't going to change the the dynamics of my marriage after 35 years.
I'm not seeking approval or validation for my lifestyle and choices. No one else has walked in my shoes. This journey is mine and my husband's based on how it all came together for us.
I'm not seeking a sense of belonging. You'll never find me joining a group or club that has Poly-Anything in its title.
I'm not out to promote the polyamorous lifestyle or tout its benefits or try to sell anyone on it. I feel that how I conduct my intimate relationship is my own business. It's a very personal decision that came from the consideration of many factors and alternatives. I don't discuss it with my coworkers, my casual friends or acquaintances. People know about my nonmonogamous marriage in Real Life on a "need to know" basis.
So, the score? 22-year-old male, married for one month: polyamory post generates 190 comments. 52-year-old female, married for 35 years: polyamory post generates 0 comments.
Go figure!
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